Now I'm not the mushy type at all, mainly because of the alphamale curse which means I take directly after an ape. That said, I also have a metrosexual tendency which I cook, clean and sing lullabies to my puppy while she sleeps...except she stares at me inquisitively, her eyes pleading at me to stop. I need a better audience.
I am a romantic at heart though, and although I will never admit it, I do have a soft spot for Valentine's Day. Oh, nuts.
Apparently single guys with puppies are at the top end of the bachelor market, which plays well into my favour. I'm told it shows you can commit, even though it's blatantly the puppy who owns me. Additionally, being able to do household chores is a big plus for romanticism . Never hire a butler if you ever make it rich – as soon as Jeeves starts doing the dishes without being asked, your girlfriend will be humping his leg.
However, things like these won't help you in Second Life. In SL, it's very much a world where your mind comes into play, as physical appearances are less important. Yes, an avatar shows your unique identity, but there's only so many Abyss and Naughty skins the male population of Second Life can fit into without hitting some repetitiveness.
Drawing a partner involves you to rely on all your personal skills – a good sense of humour, an intelligent mind and being kind and generous are all good qualities. Being someone who is bitter, twisted, cynical and slightly demented, you can see my problem here.
But there is someone out there for everyone, even in the virtual sense. I could throw a cliché that love notes and flowers are the way to be romantic, but then what a lot of guys don't realise is that it's not how often you give such romantic gestures, but all the times that you don't give them.
Plus it's harder for us guys.. while we pull romantic gestures such as "Hi honey! I built that extension to the house you wanted!", or "I booked us a private getaway to a romantic sim this weekend", we settle for a simple "I'll leave you alone while you watch your football game".
So a little romance advice – set the bar low, guys. That way you impress that special someone when you pull out a romantic gesture.. it's why Donald Trump can't stay married for long. When you buy your wife a helicopter, an army of servants and a ski resort, you're setting the bar a little too high and gearing up for disappointment.
But then, sometimes you meet a girl who makes you feel like the happiest, luckiest guy, and you just have to leave a rose on her couch. So really, in conclusion, I have little idea what I'm talking about when it comes to romance. But I didn't need to write 500 words to tell you that.
This entry was written by Prad Prathivi at Metaversally Speaking (http://www.pradprathivi.com)_________________________________________________________________
Dearest Readers,
Did you like it? Thank you so much, Prad!
You can view the article that I wrote ('Should I Stay or Should I Go? or Which Groups I Cannot Live Without and Why?') over at SL Fashion Avengers. This topic was suggested by blogger Chestnut Rau.
The article for which I selected the topic ('Toilets in SL? Yes or No?') is available on The News from Bard Haven blog and was written by Eliza Wrigglesworth from the Free Finds for Men blog.
Love, Tymmerie
5 comments:
I love the article! Prad knows what he is talking about!
<3 Ann
Sometimes you meet someone and you don't have to worry about what you say and what you do. It all just flows out naturally. It gets to the point where you are not trying to win them over. You are not trying to top what you had done the last time. You just want to be with that person. There is nothing that you would not try to do for them. As doing such would be fun and not a chore. You don't hold back and you speak from the heart when you are with them. I feel very fortunate to have found my someone... and I suspect that there really is a "someone" for everyone else too.
Then again I have built a house that covers a 1/4 sim for my wife and I and I walk the dog and take out the trash regularly ;-)
Oh, and your (readers in general - not just Prad) "someone" may be out there hiding. They could be in Gor. Or are a shy business person. Could even be that Dom over at the local Ball & Chain Bar. Hmm, are Linden allowed to fall in love for any of us mortals? Anyway, hang out in a variety of places in Second Life. And sometime you find them when you are not even looking :-)
/me thinks Prad wrote a very sweet post
Good stuff Prad!
I think in general, when you aren't looking for someone, you usually find them.
If it works, it works.
may be i am tired and may be it is friday , may be too hormonal :D but this almost put me into tears! very sweet Prad
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